Integration Support

N.D.E & N.O.S.E
Life Shocks
Complexed Grief
Personal Crisis

Who might benefit from this therapeutic service?

➢Anyone who is experiencing a life crisis that has resulted in shock ➢Anyone who is confused after a non ordinary state experience e.g. a N.O.S.E ➢Anyone who has experienced an altered state ➢Anyone who has had an N.D.E (or near Death experience) or come out of a pro-longed coma ➢Anyone suffering from anxiety ➢Anyone who would like support in integrating a dramatic change in their life, a sudden loss (grief) or is in a state of confusion about ‘belonging’ or ‘identity’.

For most people any kind of life shock can create a bridge to the unconscious. Unsolicited events, like these common experiences such as sleeping or daydreaming, childbirth, sleep deprivation, euphoria, and even extreme pain or sudden death of a loved one can fire up the nervous system to an extent that we begin to question our reality. A less common unsolicited entry into an altered reality would be a N.D.E (Near Death Experience – see below). 

Where can this kind of shock take us?

Since the beginning of time people have been exploring consciousness to more deeply understand their identity and the meaning of human existence. When a person gains access to the “foreign” realms of their psyche, the territory that transcends the tight, limited boundaries of the ego, the individual can be offered an opportunity to acknowledge their narrative in a new way. Their former self-image and world-view can become more expanded, a new level of awareness can become available and for some, an Awakening occurs. – Jung

What can we call a Wake Up?

A newfound awareness can be the gift of a life shock, but navigating the transition at the start may require support. Each person has a different outlook on life and defines things differently. This means a shock can impact a person in very different ways – however, some responses are familiar and collective:

Common themes
  • overwhelming emotions 
  • hearing sounds
  • seeing deceased friends and relatives
  • recognisable otherworldliness 
  • meaningful or disturbing dreams
  • confusion of hurt and grief
  • difficult lessons on forgiveness and fears
  • wordless emptiness of vast proportions
  • odd oneness with everything (separation and disconnection)
  • constant questioning on life choices

An expansion in thoughts may be the outcome of a life shock. It can result in a total detachment from this reality, leaving you feeling disorientated. Some N.O.S.E can be difficult to interpret, and after the event a person’s system can respond with high levels of anxiety. Some experiences are scary, taking us to the depths of our psyche, or unknown terrain (like floating outside our own body and yet still being aware of that physical shell below). We may not be prepared to handle these expansions. Although there is a school of thought that we will only be served up an encounter that we our psyche can manage, the proof is often in how easy it is for the person to integrate these new realisations over time. 

Near Death phenomena

Since 1998, Jeffrey Long, M.D., a radiation oncologist in Louisiana, has been documenting N.D.E´s across cultures, languages and countries. He employed agents to interview thousands of people about their experiences, worldwide. From a recent interview he is reported saying in the very first version of the survey in 1998 when I first put the website up, I asked that question: Was your experience dream-like in any way? I deliberately worded that in a somewhat non-scientific way because it was leading them to answer yes if any part of their NDE was dreamlike. I thought, geez that’s about as aggressively as I can conceive of wording a question to bring out any dream-like aspects, at any time, in any way during the experience. Well, the responses to that question were so overwhelmingly, “NO, absolutely not, no way, are you kidding?” I felt bad I was asking them that because the responses were not only so uniformly no, but so emphatically no. I ended up taking that question out.    

Peter Fenwick (born 25 May 1935) is a neuropsychiatrist and neuropsychologist, has spent the last decade studying N.D phenomena. He has written numerous books and papers relating to the stories gathered, offering people encouragement to use an NDE to embrace life more passionately. In this talk he encourages people to recognise their fears around Death being the Final Border. He is one of the champions for the concept of the “Good Death” experience and feels the concept of an afterlife to be undeniable.   

Is an N.D.E similar to or different from N.O.S.E?  Ultimately a near Death experience is classified as a non-ordinary-state-experience, of the unsolicited kind. There are common themes that run through all these states. Near-death experiences exhibit many attributes of a ‘mystical awareness’. Assessing the mystical quality of these experiences, Walter Pahnke identified a nine-category typology of mystical experience. It is used to illustrate the mystical nature of near-death experience. The typology also describes the self-transformation which follows the mystical state of consciousness. The self-transformational elements of a near-death experience mapped by Pahnke’s mystical typology characterises it in a way that allows for a definition of N.D.E as a mystical state (mirroring other N.O.S.E´s, like Plant Medicine, Breathwork and other altered states).

He encouraged dying patients to undergo N.O.S.E´s as a preparation for their nearing departure/threshold – and made the following observations; An overall sense of “Unity or cosmic oneness achieved through positive ego transcendence – and although the usual sense of identity, or ego, fades away, consciousness and memory are not lost; instead, the person becomes very much aware of being part of a dimension much vaster and greater than himself. In addition to the route of the “inner world” where external sense impressions are left behind, unity can also be experienced through the external world, so that a person reports that he feels a part of everything that is (for example, objects, other people, or the universe), or more simply, that “all is One.”. Other qualities reported were:

  1. Transcendence of Time and Space means that the subject feels beyond past, present, and future, and beyond ordinary dimensional space in the realm of eternity or infinity. 
  2. Deeply Felt Positive Mood containing the elements of joy, blessedness, peace, and love to an overwhelming degree of intensity, often accompanied by tears. 
  3. A sense of Sacredness is a non-rational, intuitive, hushed, palpitant response of awe and wonder in the presence of an inspiring Reality. The main elements are awe, humility, and reverence, but the terms of traditional theology or religion need not necessarily be used in the description. 
  4. The Noetic Quality, as named by William James,
  5. A feeling of insight or illumination that, on an intuitive, nonrational level and with a tremendous force of certainty, subjectively has the status of Ultimate Reality. This knowledge is not n increase in facts but is a gain in psychological, philosophical, or theological insight

Spontaneous N.O.S.E

The curious piece about some N.O.S.E’s is that some people experience a premonition beforehand, perhaps a dreamlike quality to the day before. An unsolicited N.O.S.E can be categorised something like this: a person arrives into an altered reality with no predetermined decision to do so. Sometimes an external shock or an unexpected intrusion can impact on the body and trigger a person, breaking their relationship to this reality, like an act of violence on their person, a shocking accident, a trauma, a heartbreak that brings an ego death, a relationship to severe pain or a near death occurrence. 

For people who have no choice, arriving into the altered reality of a N.O.S.E in an unplanned way, irrespective of the outcome, will offer new material to decipher. Allowing yourself supportive counsel in Integration Therapy, tailored to meet your direct experience, with full engagement and open curiosity, can be the best self care at this time of change. The possibility is, if you are viewing this material, you are already considering seeking support in navigating your relationship to this event.  Even if at first you feel shy to speak it out, or confused about how to match the experience in words, we encourage you to understand these are familiar reactions. Societal norms and fears of being misjudged, or even a protectiveness around the ‘sacredness’ or how special this encounter felt, can hold you back from reaching out and telling others. Take your time if you are not feeling anxious, but start to journal the memories as best you can as this is rich terrain, and if it indeed feels wordless, draw it, dance it, sing it, bake it! We will be here when you are ready to connect.

  • How do I translate the experience?

A person’s ability to Integrate their N.O.S.E can vary depending on self awareness, previous unexplained experiences, the person’s nervous system etc. 

Feeling unsettled since your N.O.S.E?

Here’s an example: You wake up in a hospital or regain consciousness after an accident or a strange state and cannot find the words to match what has just happened. Now you have had time to settle yourself, physical impact aside, you are noticing changes to your thinking that are difficult to interpret. You are remembering being somewhere else, encountering experiences that you have no way to explain. Some people get a deep seated feeling that what they had just encountered was NOT a dream but a different place and time. 

It does not matter how you arrived here. If you are experiencing anxiety for a prolonged period of time after a N.O.S.E, it can be this event was experienced by you as traumatising. An individual, even the well-prepared, seeking to deal with the aftermath of shock should not let fear symptoms go on for any longer than a few days. It can be very useful if the experience is still fresh when you approach a support system. 

THIS IS ONE SUPPORT SYSTEM

  • What can I expect from this therapeutic support system?

Stage 1 – Your personalised integration therapy after a N.O.S.E includes many factors. Firstly we have you fill out a carefully formulated questionnaire, to get a sense of your history and current state of health and well-being. This is relating to Mind, Body and Spirit.

Evaluating your responses might result in a referral for a different therapeutic approach. If we decide to work together, where your state of well-being has been affirmative enough to use our model, we move forward to the next stage.

Stage 2 – a person to person online session which allows us to go over together the criteria for this modality, the contract between us and the way the therapy will flow. This is a Getting To Know you session. From here we will either agree or disagree to work together.

Stage 3 -is delivery of your personalised directive for this journey. This can involve the following principles:

To achieve a sustainable positive lifetime outcome, we encourage you as the client to create new behavioral patterns and develop a new state of being. Any left over emotional links to hurt are worked through using a tailored system of care. Attention to daily life, using tracking methods, allow detection unuseful negative reactions that are taking up space.

After any expanded states experience we assist you to setup a platform of assisted integration, where you begin to explore the event through various methods, including journalling, bodywork, philosophy, (etc). It is important to consider this is an investment in Yourself. What is Self-care? For some this question is obvious, for others, is an extension in self development.

RECALIBRATION

  • How?

A system of monitored self-process can give you the answers on how you need to recalibrate. Bodywork and energetic tools can play a huge role. For example (TYM)

Disturbance after your N.O.S.E?

Trauma can happen with any overwhelming circumstance: a basic hallmark of a traumatic experience is anything that’s “too much, too fast, too soon” for a particular human nervous system to handle. Long periods of ungroundedness, anxiety and paranoia, if left unattended, can create massive ruptures in the human psyche and be difficult to resolve. The quicker you get solutions to soothing your system the better. During stage 3 we will hopefully have a sense of the urgency your need and work from there. 

Aftercare can include reinforcing the emotions as they reveal themselves. Grief being one aspect, as we rediscover what has been lost to us, or realise it for the first time. This is very person oriented therapy. After a N.O.S.E we may have travelled to a new depth where we start to recognise behaviors we were never aware of have interrupted our evolution

RE-IDENTIFICATION 

In order to navigate some of the changes and challenges that may come your way, as a direct result of an -awakening- part of this programme looks at the concept of Mis-identification with a view to Re-identifying. Confused? It is something like Unbecoming in order to Become with the suggestion that over time, as you start to wonder more about who you are, you can begin by deciding who you are not.

How is this process supported?. 

  • Individually tailored weekly protocols
  • Persona research
  • Tracking daily life
  • Education on the different N.O.S.E
  • Re-parenting concepts
  • Book reviews
  • Journalling

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